My name is Nils Welham and I am a transition coach. Today I choose how to live according to my vision of the life that I have consciously picked but that wasn’t always the case.
Growing up, I’ve always been a bit of a people pleaser. From a young age, my parents divorced and my dad then had a girlfriend who did not treat us well. This experience instilled a belief in me that you need to earn someone’s love. In turn, this belief caused me to have always followed the “normal” path and not rock the boat. Go to university, get a good job, and voila that’s life. This is exactly, what I did, I finished my business engineering Masters degree and then rolled into financial services.
To be honest with all of you, it was interesting and fun at first. I was good at it, was successful, and got the opportunity to move from Belgium to London. I even had a stint in Hong Kong setting up a services team there. The job allowed me to travel all over the world getting into contact with so many different cultures. I taught and developed a variety of people. It wasn’t a bad gig!
The older I got though the less and less, this corporate world aligned with me as a person. I felt completely disengaged and I felt something was missing. I just wasn’t happy with my current life of following the “rules”. It was difficult to accept because society would say something like this ‘You should really be happy, you have an amazing job, a good salary and you see all of these amazing places all over the world’
Well truth be told, I did not do much with this feeling. I continued to sleepwalk through life and accepted this soul crushing feeling. Slowly though, I was awakening, and I started asking myself surely there must be more to life? I decided to do something about it. I set up my own ecommerce business with some of my best friends. Setting up the business was an amazing experience and one that I still enjoy. However, this venture most importantly helped me realise that the dream I had of living my vision of life could actually be possible.
It was a small realisation though. There were still lots of fears. What will people think? Will they still love me/accept me if I start doing my own thing? I was still sitting on the fence about fully choosing myself and my vision of life. These fears spread into all of the areas of my life.
A combination of events then led to me not being true to myself and eventually losing my relationship. I was devastated and felt like I failed myself and the people I loved. That sense of failure and inadequacy though was a blessing in disguise. It literally gave me kick up my backside. That was the time when I said to myself what the hell Nils, see what these fears are doing and how they are impacting you. I realised I had to take ownership and responsibility of my own thoughts and feelings. I was, and I am lucky enough to have some amazing friends and family who supported me throughout.
This gave me the courage to sit down and go on a massive journey of self-exploration and eventually led me to the Institute for Professional Excellence in Coaching (iPEC), where I continued my path of exploration and found myself and my purpose.
This purpose is to empower innovative founders to transition from corporate to entrepreneurship so that they can confidently take the leap and achieve their true potential.
The reason why I am so passionate about this work is that I know everyone has a true gift that is just aching to be shared and when this happens, the world will dramatically change for the better.
I am glad that you have made it here to send a distress signal, and inform the Senate that all on board were killed. Dantooine. I’m not going to Alderaan. I really got to go.
But that to me. Send a distress signal, and inform the Senate that all on board were killed. Dantooine. They’re on Dantooine. The plans you refer to will soon be back in our hands. Alderaan? I’m not going to Alderaan. I got to go home.